Why Can’t I Achieve My Goals?
We all know how goal achievement works – you decide on a goal, say running your first half marathon, or completing a challenging project at work. You then break that big goal down into smaller achievable chunks. You might create a project plan or new running schedule. You think about what else you need to support you in achieving your goal such as changing your diet or seeking help from more experienced colleagues. And then you follow that plan until you reach your goal, feeling focused and determined the whole time, knowing you will be successful.
The Power of the Mind
Sounds easy right? So why is it that some people do achieve their goals and realise their potential, whereas others feel like something holds them back from being all they can be? Often this comes down to one of the most important tools we have – our mind. Our mind can be utilised to achieve amazing feats and one we can harness to help us reach success, or it can sometimes be our greatest enemy, conspiring against us at every turn.
Success – it’s not in the Genes
Now some people might think this is due to genetics, or willpower, or some other pre-determined trait that you don’t have control over. I hate to break it to you but this just isn’t true. Every human being has a reservoir of intelligence and understanding that we can tap into to help us make the best decisions and take the best actions at any given time. So the question is what stops us from accessing it?
Stress – the Enemy
One word – stress. If our stress levels get too high then what happens is that we move from our intellectual brain to our primitive brain, our instinctual brain. This is the part you would have heard referred to as the Fight or Flight area of the brain. Now back when we hunted and gathered that was really useful because it gave us strength and speed to run away from wild animals or defend ourselves against enemy tribesman. Unfortunately even though we live in a sophisticated society it still operates in the same way, but as we can’t run away from our credit card bill or get into a fight with that really annoying guy at work, we hold all that stress within us.
Sleep – the Stress Buster
We do have a way for getting rid of stress, and that is through REM sleep, the part of our sleep cycle where we dream. In REM sleep we re-run the events of the day and we move them from our primitive mind to our intellectual mind, which clears it from our stress bucket. But if we are holding too much stress, or if our sleep isn’t very good, then the stress levels are never cleared to a manageable level. So stress builds up and up until we just aren’t coping any more, or at least not coping as well as we could be. Some of the symptoms of this are insomnia or disturbed sleep, feeling angry, anxious or depressed, obsessive thoughts or actions, procrastination, negative self-talk, or self destructive behaviour such as poor eating, excessive drinking, and staying up late. It could be just a general sense of not feeling right, not feeling yourself anymore.
Hypnotherapy to the Rescue!
This is where Hypnotherapy can help. Hypnotherapy uses the trance state to help you clear the stress bucket and access your intellectual mind, which over time will help you start feeling better, sleeping better, be happier and more positive. With Solution Focused Hypnotherapy, which is the type of Hypnotherapy I practice, we focus on the positives, so we help you to build a more positive vision of your future and help you take steps to make that future a reality.
Hypnotherapy for Success
For those of you who manage your stress well and would like to use Hypnotherapy to give you that edge in sport or in any area of your life, then Solution Focused Hypnotherapy would also be great for you too. One important fact about the brain is that it can’t tell the difference between imagination and reality, and this has been proven time and again by various studies. So using Hypnotherapy can enhance your awareness and focus, sharpen specific skills, and through visualisation create a successful outcome so that by the time you run your race or deliver your presentation, you already have that winning mindset. Hypnotherapy has been used for a long time in sports and a lot of famous successful people have used Hypnotherapy techniques to enhance their performance – Tiger Woods, David Beckham and Roger Federer to name a few. Glenn Catley, who became the WBC Middleweight Champion of the World, credits Solution Focused Hypnotherapy with helping him reach the heights he did, so much so that he is now a Solution Focused Hypnotherapist himself!
A few things keep coming up when I talk to people about Hypnotherapy, so I thought I would address them in case you were also wondering about them:
- You’ll make me do things against my will
No, I will not make you cluck like a chicken! (and yes, I have been asked this before). Your mind is an amazing thing and it will only take on suggestions that it thinks are for its benefit. During the process you are completely in control at all times.
- Trance – sounds a bit spooky
Trance is very normal, in fact you do it throughout the day – you know when you are driving and arrive at your destination unaware of the last 5 minutes of your journey, or you are watching TV and you miss part of the program without realising it? That is trance. In Hypnotherapy we use this state to access your subconscious, which is much more powerful than only working with your conscious mind.
- So after a session or two will I be fixed?
Although Hypnotherapy can help you give up smoking in one double session, or help get rid of a specific phobia in 3-4 sessions, when it comes to general stress and anxiety or goal achievement it will take a few more sessions than that. But you will start to see results quickly, and when you think about it, going to see a hypnotherapist for a few months isn’t much compared to years of not feeling your best.
- I don’t have to do anything – the Hypnotherapist will do it all for me
As we all know, sustained change requires effort and dedication, and Hypnotherapy is no different. It needs commitment from you to want to change, and with that commitment you will see remarkable results and be able to live your life to the full.
Where do I find a Hypnotherapist?
If you are interested in exploring Solution Focused Hypnotherapy then you can go to the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy website and search for a Clinical Hypnotherapist near you. You can also do a Google search, but the key things to look out for are the type of Hypnotherapy they practice, as well as making sure they state they are registered with the National Council for Hypnotherapy and the Association for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy. Obviously word of mouth is also a good way to find a credible Hypnotherapist.
If you would like to know more about Hypnotherapy then please feel free to call me or email me, I would love to hear from you. And good luck in that wonderful journey of realising your potential.
Disclaimer: This is a guest post written by Tricia Maitland. Tricia is currently studying to be a qualified Solution Focused Hypnotherapist, which she will complete in March 2017. She is currently seeing clients in Bath and Bristol but is also able to hold sessions over Skype. If you would like further information please call on 07825 472 946, or email firstname.lastname@example.org, or you can find her at www.soulstreamhypnotherapy.co.uk.